Sometimes Things Just Totally Suck

I had food poisoning yesterday. I won't say where because I'm sure it was just a fluke thing and I don't want to ruin any restaurants' reputations, but I will say the food was good and I didn't expect anything to go wrong. After lunch I sat back and watched The Dictator (that Sacha Baron Cohen movie) with some friends and I didn't even make it through the thing before I had to run to the bathroom to throw up. Again and again and again. And it sucked.

None of my habits did me any good. I couldn't meditate my way through it. The lunch I had had was actually pretty healthy: salad, veggies, whole grains, and a bit of cheese. Staying hydrated didn't help. The fact that I write every couple of days was worthless. Everything bowed before the involuntary vomiting reflex. Maybe working on my core strength helped a little. God knows my abs were hurting enough.

Self-help gurus tell us our lives are in our own hands. That if we want something, all we have to do is go out and work hard for it. That may be true for some things, but sometimes things just suck and will continue to suck up until they stop sucking. And all you can do is wait.

I'm mostly thinking along the lines of illness, including anxiety attacks, GI problems, depression, food poisoning, the flu, etc. Things can also "just suck" for a few days when you've just ended a relationship, been rejected, lost your job, etc.

What You Can Do When You Can't Do Anything and Things Just Totally Suck


Make sure you're not alone. Something really amazing happens when we're around others. It takes us out of our heads and allows us to see things more clearly. Also, others can make sure you're not in serious danger, bring you food or water, etc.

Wait it out. It will end. Everything that has a beginning has an end. And everything has a beginning. So don't worry. Distract yourself until it passes. Watch a Pixar movie. I've never felt worse after watching one. That's not something I could say for Superman movies. The last couple were disappointing.

Call a hotline if it's serious. 911 and poison control work for medical emergencies, but there are other hotlines for victims of crime, the suicidal, and drug addicts where you may just need someone to talk to or to get information about what you're going through.

Listen to your body. If you're feeling nauseous, go throw up. If you're feeling tired, go to sleep.

Don't stress out about things that can wait until after it's over.

Listen to music that is either relaxing or jives with what you're going through.

Have some chocolate and don't feel guilty about it. Lupin knew what he was talking about. Eat real food, too, if you can.

Sticking to whatever habits you have to the best of your ability will help, though don't worry about ones that are too hard.

Forgive yourself for doing anything that might have caused this. It's not your fault. It's not your fault. It's not your fault.

Things May Not Be OK Right Now, But I Promise They Will Be Eventually


Things may get worse before they get better. Things may get bad again after they've gotten good. But if your pain is all-consuming, I want you to know that your pain will lessen in time.Your life will go on, you'll have many great times and awful times. Both are part of life. Zen would tell us to find the good in the bad. It would say, as long as we can breathe the oxygen around us and wonder at the stars above us, life goes on. Maybe Zen is right. All I know is I wasn't thinking about the stars when I was throwing up all afternoon, but I got better anyways.

And I don't think I've ever felt better.